* Rivierenhof Park, Antwerp (13 June 04) ©Irisbe

It is not the first time Sukim a.k.a Sukmawati call me from The Netherlands this noon, just before lunch. Quite long time talking, since it was in working hours. Was so glad to get her call. I really need to ask several things about Netherlands. She is about to leave her company by the end of June. (Bisa aja lu, Kim!)

Do you have friends to share, I need to learn a lot here. Please.
What is it, you will not getting married right?
No. Not for now. If so, it would be my last choice.
Ohh no please! Never think about it.
People advise me to, though, but it is not that simple.

For several case, married is an answer. I just dont want to misuse it. What I mean is that it supposed to be a meaning, not just a runaway exit. Apart from any religion talk, married have to be something needed, not just a path to fulfilled in a life.

My sympathy goes to my dearly friends which have to fight to get married. Im on your side.